I never thought I’d get married.
Like, I’d have to force my eyes shut, clench my fists, and stop breathing when my friends started talking about their dream weddings, their perfect man, etc. because I didn’t want to go on a rant about how ridiculous that seemed.
And yet, here I am: 24 years old, about to get married, with a 9-5 lame-ass job, a killer loft, and two fluffy babies
If you’re thinking, “Oh my god, you’re just like everyone else. You got lonely, hooked up, and you’ve settled. Way to be, Rach, you’re a statistic,” then I would like to follow up that thought with this: “Wow. Fuck you, bro. Also, never call me ‘Rach.’ Ever.” (Honestly, the 16-year-old-Rachel inside of me says these things every once in awhile, so you’re not the first. Except Rach. We’ve always hated that.)
Really, though, that’s not my story. I just happened to (unfortunately? j/k babe) meet My Person at a time different than what I was ever hoping to. At 19 I met this dude, we totally hit it off, and now 4 1/2 years later we’re like, “Yo, I love you, you love me, life seems kinda grey without you, and 20 years from now I wanna still be having adventures with you. You’re my best friend, we enjoy boning one another, huzzah! Marriage!” (Insert Aziz Ansari “Tax Purposes” Clip Here
So then what’s the problem?
Well, for one: 16-year-old-Rachel and this chick whom I have a megaboner for, Vanessa Elizabeth of WanderOnwards.com
, are both like, “Dude. You’re 24. You still have so much life to live before tying yourself to another person forEVER.” And I get that. I truly do. But facts are facts, and the facts are this: I love Sean, he’s It
for me. In three weeks I will no longer be Just Rachel Fair, I’ll be Rachel Fair-Callahan. My Everything, it seems, will be connected to His Everything. So how do I make 16-year-old-Rachel and Vanessa (and you, ya dick) happy with my decision? By taking the next few weeks until my marriage (September 27th, 2014) and focusing on Me, Them, and Him.
If you followed the link to Vanessa’s post
, you’ll see that she made a list of 23 Things to Do Instead of Getting Engaged at 23. Some of them I have already done, others I would like to accomplish as much as I can. On top of that, however, I’ve asked friends/family/strangers/interweb-haters what THEY think you should do before getting married, especially getting married so young.
So here’s my list; I have 15 days left to complete what I haven’t done yet. To bring you along on my journey, I will be posting clips and videos on my Instagram
The 10 Things RGDMFF Thinks You Should Do Before Getting Married